Are you selfish ENOUGH?
Do you find yourself constantly cancelling out important values you require in a partner from your list? Or you get together with someone who isn’t the kind of person you want but because people say you’re too picky or because you’ve been single for way too long you decide to “manage” what you’ve gotten?
Don’t get me wrong, you can find the man/woman of your dreams in a way you never expected. They might come as someone that’s a total opposite of your list, wrapped in a package that you don’t necessarily like but everything you ever hoped for.
But none the less, I still believe that if you have core values you require your partner to possess, then you shouldn’t let go of that.
I’m here to tell you to be SELFISH and you shouldn’t feel bad about it either.
What do I actually mean by being selfish?
Selfish here, means, not settling for LESS than you deserve and/or not giving yourself room to live your best life.
There are certain values or traits you might want in a partner that you shouldn’t give up on – values that are important to you.
What’s wrong with wanting a man who has the same faith/believe as you do.
A woman who is confident in herself.
A man who respects you and is loyal to you.
Someone who is concerned about your growth.
Someone who …… (fill in the blank)
As long as you are able to meet up to those standards though, don’t expect something you can’t dish out as well.
Be selfish but do not limit your options drastically by making a list that could blind you from great potentials. Have a reasonable list (what’s reasonable can only be decided by the person making the list).
IT IS OKAY TO BE SELFISH.
Take care of YOU first.
Being selfish doesn’t only apply to when you’re trying to find a partner. Maybe you don’t want to date now. You feel like you are not ready to commit to anyone. You still want to enjoy being single. Want to explore more before committing. That’s fine. There is nothing wrong with that, don’t feel pressured because everyone is dating.
Selfish could be deciding to date the person you want to and not feeling like you owe anyone in your life anything.
“I have a friend who was single for quite some time and had so many guys come to her wanting to date her, but she didn’t accept to any of them. When she finally met a guy she liked, she couldn’t bring herself to say yes to him because she felt the other guys – who she was now friends with – will feel betrayed”.
Selfish could be pursuing the career of your choice.
Be selfish all you want. It is okay to be selfish.
Share some of the ways you haven’t been selfish enough and how you intend to be selfish, I always love reading your comments. Make sure you share (someone out there might just need a little push to be more selfish). Thanks for the read.