Recently, I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and she asked me, “Why are single people unhappy”?
I paused for a moment cause it wasn’t a question I was expecting and I’d also never really given it a thought.
Wanna guess what I told her?
What an interesting question right? And if you really sit to think about it, how often to do come across single people who are content, happy and comfortable about their ‘single’ status?
Of course, I’m pretty sure they are several single people out there who are happy (I’m not one to generalize).
Now I’m going to share with you my answer to my friend…..
Single people are unhappy because they keep searching.
Searching for what?
….fill in the blanks…
A lot of people believe that they have to get the above mentioned things from a significant other and that’s where the problem kicks in.
If you’re searching for something where you will 97% not find it, what happens? You’ll end up being unhappy because you searched for so long but it was unfruitful.
Take for example, you lose your precious necklace (which you keep on your beauty table) and you go over to the garbage bin to search for it, you rummage through the garbage desperately hoping to find the necklace. What happens when you don’t find it there?
You’re going to be so disappointed and distraught.
Now, that’s what you get for searching in the wrong places.
It’s important for everyone to understand that there are certain things no one can ever give you. Yes, they can support you through the journey, but your happiness and self esteem doesn’t come from them, it comes from you.
Do you know why a lot of people find it hard to let go and move on from relationships?
It’s because they have made that person their all or at least they think that person is their all. They think all their confidence, joy and self esteem will be gone without that person being around.
But that’s not true, you have to keep in mind that if the person you’re with leaves you today, you may be heart broken and hurt, but you still have your happiness, confidence and self esteem intact.
It is yours. You have to obtain it. You have to keep it. No matter the circumstance.
So, quit searching for your joy in others, find it within yourself and you’ll be a happy single lady/gentleman.
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