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No more excuses
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These questions tend to pop up a lot in the christian world:
When should I start dating? Should I date while in school?
Today, I wouldn’t be answering the question of when you should start dating, but I’m going to give my opinion on if CHRISTIANS SHOULD DATE WHILE IN UNIVERSITY.
I find that whenever the word “dating” or relationship” comes up in the Christian world, especially among young christians, there’s always some sort of hush hush situation or people just tell you wait till you’re ready for marriage.
First of all, I have to say, I do understand why people say, wait till you’re ready for marriage before dating.
A lot of people date prematurely and end up making loads of mistakes and most people use age as a factor for telling people to wait till marriage before jumping on the dating wagon, so in their mind, by the time you’re ready for marriage you’d be more mature and will be able to avoid certain mistakes.
Which is understandable, right?
Now, here are my opinions…..
Personally, do not conform to that idea of waiting till you’re ready for marriage before you can start dating and I don’t disagree with it either.
I do however, believe that you can be ready to delve into the dating world not not ready to get married.
We are all different, we have our different journeys, purposes and we will all walk on different parts.
There are certain Christians who are so bent on only dating when they are of age for marriage, that they shut their minds off to love – attracting and receiving love -like it’s some plague.
What happened to letting God take his will in your life?
If you are so focused on a particular time line for your life, how will you notice or see the opportunities – love- God will bring your way?
Now, I know there are certain people who might have received some sort of revelation or just know deep down in their hearts that they should be single for a certain period of time. That’s beautiful.
But not everyone’s journey is the same, Just because a particular christian said he waited for marriage or wants to want till he is ready for marriage before dating doesn’t mean you have to do the same.
We may all be Christians but we have our individual parts to walk.
It’s important to keep an open mind and an open heart (guard it though), so we will be able to see the blessings and love God has kept along the way for us.
You might be thinking, oh, how about developing yourself? Investing in yourself before getting into a relationship with someone.
Oh yes, I totally agree with that, you have to have gotten to a certain level in your personal life before thinking of getting involved with someone. But do you know that regardless of how much you try, there are several things you won’t be able to accomplish on your own?
Why do you think people use the phase “He/she compliments my weaknesses”?
Dwell on that…
Here’s another one;
You think you need to focus mainly on studies, so NO DISTRACTIONS. I agree with you, dating will distract you one way or another and that’s why you need to have gotten to a certain mental, emotional, spiritual, personal, financial level before you begin dating. Just because you’re dating someone doesn’t mean you’re at their beck and call.
If your girlfriend/boyfriend calls you while you’re studying and you can’t say “Hey love, I’m studying right now, I’ll give you a call when I’m done” then you shouldn’t be dating!
And, who says you’re not gonna have things to focus on after school? It’s even gonna be more demanding! You’re going to have work and also bills to pay, there will be more responsibilities for you. So if you can’t handle it now, will you be able to handle it then?
At the end of the day, “Its all about dating with intention and dating for the right reasons and having an expected outcome”.
Don’t get the wrong idea, I’m not telling everyone to run along and start dating the first person they come across, the message I’m trying to pass across is;
- There isn’t anything wrong with findig love while still in school.
- Keep an open mind and let God work His magic.
Work greatly on yourself but don’t treat dating like it’s some plague you have to avoid.
Let’s not forget, I’m not talking about “when to know you are ready for a relationship” I’m solely focusing on If students can/should date. Don’t get it twisted.
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