Ever started your journey and then made a mistake? Got tempted and gave in? Felt like it was the right thing to do at that moment? And now you feel like you have to start all over again?
Worry no more, I’m here to help.
Now, have a brief reflection on how it all went down – don’t go too far – just a brief reflection. What transpired before everything went south? Did you just watch a racy movie together? Had a few too many drinks? Cuddled a little too much?
We have to realize that sex doesn’t just happen. It takes series of events to lead up to that moment. Those series of events are what you should avoid.
Well, here are 5 things that you can potentially ruin your plans of staying celibate
1. WATCHING A RACY MOVIE TOGETHER
How can you watch a stimulating movie together and expect to leave there the same? – Except you have a willpower gotten from the gods. This is a recipe for disaster.
2. A CRY FOR HELP
You know those moments when you’re feeling down? When you’re all up in your emotions? A co-worker, friend, or just someone made you feel some typa way? A business deal didn’t go as planned? When you failed an exam? or just plain ‘ol moody?
Well, honey, this is not the time to call your girlfriend/boyfriend (or a friend you’re attracted to) to come over. Why? In case you didn’t know, these are moments when you’ll be really vulnerable and obviously and understandably needy for some comfort, and you know how these things could end up right? One moment you’re leaning on his shoulder, the next you’re staring into each others eyes and then ….. you know what happens next – perfect movie scene.
Solution: Call a friend (one that you’re very sure nothing can transpire between you two) over, instead. Or better still, call beau and have your conversation on the phone, faceTime, skype, etc.
3. DRINKS! DRINKS! DRINKS!
Obvious right? Don’t drink more than you can handle when on a date or together, because alcohol like we all know, makes us act a little “funny” when we’ve had more than enough. So know your limit and watch that extra glass!
4. SLEEP OVERS
I know there will be times when you feel like spending the night at his/her place or you stay over too late and now it’s “too late” to go home; If you are not sure you can resist the temptation that will come your way…don’t do it!
Solution: Why not do a double or more date sleep over? – hold up, with a couple or couples that are also practicing the wait. Or better still, don’t do sleep overs.
5. TALKING ABOUT SEX
I know, I know. Is there a way of talking about celibacy without talking about sex?
Here’s what I’m trying to say…don’t get into the whole details about sex, like the graphical descriptions, talking about the positions you like, your fantasies, blah, blah, blah. This, can get you quite aroused and will in no way, be of help to you.
HERE’S ONE LAST THING THAT COULD MESS YOU UP: Being with someone who’s indifferent about celibacy.
There are a lot more I could share, let me know the comments if you’d like to learn about more things that could mess up your plans if staying celibate.
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